Why I have been AWOL from the forum for some years

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Why I have been AWOL from the forum for some years

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This is a hard post for me to write.

In 2019 I was referred to a psychiatric hospital for my severe mental health issues (caused by brain damage at 3 months old), thanks to the pandemic I was not seen until the end of 2024 in between those dates I became a very nasty hateful person that was mean and cruel with my words, I was also very angry and caused a lot of damage around the house, thankfully I live alone and no danger to others. So it was better if I stayed away from here (and other forums) that way I would not offend or upset other members.

While I am now 95% better I still have the odd wobble where the nastiness re-appears so my advanced apologies if I post something that isn't nice etc. I don't mean it as it to be nasty it is just the way my brain functions sometimes. As my psychiatrist said I have all the symptoms of severe ADHD but don't have ADHD so the normal treatment for ADHD would do more harm than good. I have to learn to notice the trigger points and mechanisms to then deal with them before I go full tilt nasty/angry for no reason.

Thank you for your understanding in this.

Simon
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I applaud your honesty! So glad you are getting help for this finally. And I hope that you get support here and elsewhere!
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gardener wrote: Thu Oct 16, 2025 10:19 pm I applaud your honesty! So glad you are getting help for this finally. And I hope that you get support here and elsewhere!
Thank you
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The hardest bit is over Simon! :clap:

Understanding your problems and trigger points will surely be a great help, to help to keep yourself stabilized. :thumbup:
I personally have never seen you post anything nasty.

My very best wishes in staying well and healthy as possible. :grin:
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grangers14 wrote: Mon Nov 10, 2025 6:00 pm My very best wishes in staying well and healthy as possible. :grin:
Thank you
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Yes, same here Simon! I wish you all the best :thumbup:
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mallosa wrote: Tue Nov 11, 2025 3:40 pm Yes, same here Simon! I wish you all the best :thumbup:
Thank you
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