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Not meaning to be morbid

Today I have been to a very close family friends funeral. Felt very sad about it all the last week or so. He passed away a few hours from his 83rd Birthday. A lovely lovely man... The church wasnt big enough to hold all the people and the community centre was housed with speakers to hear the service was full too.

He had decided already how the funeral was to be, hymns and readings etc. He had also started a Eulogy that his wife and daughter filled in for the last few years that was read.

I have never thought of doing anything like that, but it was all so nice and special.

Its made me think about doing it.
Have you done it or had any ideas?

Jo

Sorry to hear about the death of your friend Jo, so sad especially at this time of the year. We have made some arrangements for our funerals, you can organise it with the Co-op and pay up front! But hey you are a lot younger than us, so don't worry about it at the moment, happy new year

Linell.

well im going to get cremated told them all, and i want buired under one of those little flat headstones with as much info on it i can get,poss with a sarcy comment at the bottom, or might get my tree put on it ? and to own the plot so the cannot move the headstone

I fancy this graveyard because it always looks so cosy at Christmas
http://www.flickr.com/photos/little_fra ... otostream/

A couple of years ago (on the day that Google Streetview was taken in our village) a friend who had been suffering from cancer for several years was buried. She had set out in detail how her funeral was to be conducted from her entry into the church (in a wicker coffin) to the tune of 'Here Come the Girls' (the original Ernie K Doe version), through the readings, to the hand drawn hearse that followed a New Orleans Style Jazz band to the cemetery. Only the vicar's address was unscripted by her. It was just like her; loud, brash and completely uncaring of what anyone else thought. It was great fun for everyone. She would have loved it.

My dad used to say he wanted a New Orleans style funeral, my mum's answer has always been not over her dead body! Then she wants to be cremated so's not to be buried alive, so there is maybe a bargaining element there.

I've always been of the opinion that whoever is left behind gets to chose, doesn't bother me one way or the other! I'd always follow my relies instructions though, not that I'd be afraid of them haunting me (I'd quite like that), but purely as a mark of respect.

Mike & I have in our Wills that we wish to be buried. We want Wicker coffins. The problem is, neither of us want a Church funeral but we know that this would upset older relatives, so we are holding fire on a decision on that, if we outlive our Mums, then we can go with a Humanist Funeral but if either of us go before our Mums, then I think it would only be fair for them to be the funeral that would seem right to them. After all, if we aren't here, it isn't going to bother us.

Peterd made me laugh. There speaks a family history researcher.

You could always go for a Humanist interment (my mother was buried in a woodland site in such a manner) followed by a memorial service in Church.