dudleytaylor wrote:oh thats sad.All the churchyards i go to have trees and flowers.Our church is in the countryside and its very peaceful ,and the lady that lived in my house before me, is buried there.I have seen some of the churchyards in France ,and they look barren and cold

They have trees too, some churchyards are very beautiful, and the danish burial records are great - they don't tell you what the inscription was, but what they do tell you can help loads. Most burial records I've seen have the parents, as well as the DOB, regardless as to whether the parents are dead or not. For married women the maiden name is also included. Danish church records are great (as long as you can read the writing) - the first few I looked at, had a strange date, usually with a unrecognised name recorded on the marriage record - it wasn't birth, christening or confirmation - I eventually found out that it was a small pox vacination, and the name of the doctor was included. The only place they do sometimes let you down, is with christenings, where female godparents are referred to as Mrs Jones, with no forname, and usually a common surname (as until about 1850ish) the kids surnames came from their fathers forename - so Jens' son or daughter would have Jensen as a surname, earlier still and a daughter would be Jensdatter - this I think is still the same in Iceland. Jensen, Madsen etc are still very common - a lot of people have a traditional middle name that may be a place or the farm their family came from, or maybe their mother's maiden name if it was more unusual.